Alice In Wonder Depression

“ALICE IN WONDER DEPRESSION” – Stop Emotional Stress at its bud before it kills you. Stay away from addictive drugs. There is always a better way.

As soon as Alice was born, she was given away for adoption to a childless couple who were already in their mid forties. Alice was the youngest of seven other siblings. Her dad died a couple of months before she was born. Her biological mother, a housewife, was exhausted by her misery and grief over her husband’s sudden death, and at that point in time, she thought it would be the best interest for Alice to be given away for adoption. It was unknown if Alice was given away for a “price” but her biological mother was warned never to make any contact with this child.

With Alice still in her womb, her biological mother must have suffered great emotional stress from grief, fear and uncertainty of her husband’s sudden death. According to Deepak Chopra, he shared that, “Stress activates the unborn child’s endocrine system and influences foetal brain development”. Perhaps, there could be a linked to the reasons why children born to stressful mothers become hyperactive, fearful, sickly and prone to emotional trauma. Most gynaecologists will agree that in the sixth month of pregnancy, as the child develops physically, the baby could already feel, hear, see and taste. If this is so, then the good and bad feelings of the mother will also affect the child in her womb.

Alice is now 37 years of age, still single and reported to be in depression. The psychiatrist has put her on depressant drugs. Any emotional or hurtful event could trigger her relapse and that she could go in and out of depression between weeks. It started off in her late thirties as emotional stress and sleep disorder and she needed antidepressant for insomnia.

When Alice grown out of her teens, there was little or no animosity shown at time when her parents unveiled the secret of her adoption, although she told them that one day she would like to meet her biological mother and would like to ask why she gave her up for adoption. Her other wish was to have the opportunity to meet some of her siblings. Although such wishes were desired, no serious attempt was made to arrange any personal contact. Being the only child, she was spoilt by her adopted parents. She practically had her ways as a young child as her adopted parents loved her very much. As a child over showered with love, she grew up being stubborn, self-centred, egoistic, selfish, proud and snobbish.

The cause of Alice’s depression is really unknown although she claimed that it was due to several issues. As a young girl in her teens, she felled in love with a High School student and who broke up the relationship when he left to pursue his career in another country. She was upset and suffered in silence for over 10 years for this young boy. Later when Alice learnt that he got married, she was upset and felt even more depressed.

On a rebound, Alice met another man and immediately went intimate with him and underwent two abortions within a short span of only six months and the guilt and shame arising from her staunch Catholic background, caused her deeper into depression. The worst scenario was that Alice did not love this man. Soon thereafter, she was intimately involved with a man who cheated her financially. Her depression deepens further and she has to resign from her good job which she loved so much. She went into business but failed although she did not give the MLM business time to materialise.

Alice became even more depressed and shut herself from the outside world. She was now addicted to anti-depressants. When she could not come to term with herself, Alice frequently took overdose of anti-depressants. She even had a bad fall at the shower when she felt giddy and groggy from the side-effects of such overdose. Her misfortunes compounded deeper when her adopted mother passed away after a short illness and from old age. She claimed that it was her late mother who spiritually gave her the inner strength and ability to live independently and now that she has passed on, Alice felt lonely and loss. She now stays on her own in a nice and cosy apartment outside the city.

She soon came to her senses and realized that her past cannot be changed and that she must try to forgive and forget past hurts and start life anew. She kept away from any relationship involvement for almost 3 years and thought after 3 years, she is now ready for one. She met a guy from a Church Camp who has been a widower for 8 years when his wife succumbed to cancer at a young age of 40.

However, Alice failed to realise that in any relationship, the journey will have its roller coaster ride of ups and down and the situation is even more volatile when romance begins in later part of life between mid forties and fifties. This is because the responsibilities and obligations of life were much greater at this age than those young boys and girls starting off their puppy love.

The mistake that Alice made was that she did not revealed to John about her medical situation and that she was still on anti-depressants. When Alice had a relapse, they had a quarrel when John found out that for the first time that she suffered from depression and he became fearful and disappointed. The constant quarrels and disagreements that erupted worsen Alice’s conditions. Although, John was fearful and angry and over reacted to Alice’s condition, he should not be blamed for burst of anger as when people are fearful, they usually over-react. John went through 5 years of torment himself and witnessed how his wife suffered from cancer and the thought of facing another fearful event in life frightened him. John reiterated that had Alice warned him of her situation, he would have like her to be healed of her depression first before getting involved with the relationship.

In view of Alice’s persistent illness, it was hard on the part of John to believe that Alice had genuinely fallen in love with him or was she clinging on to him because she was lost, lonely and depressed. John knew very little about clinical depression. It was his first encounter with someone who is suffering from depression.

John, being kind and caring person wanted to help Alice come out of depression and he began researching on the illness. He found out that “Emotional Freedom Technique” In short, it is known as “EFT” founded by Gary Craig and has over 80% success rate and has helped many people come out of depression. EFT is a fairly new and powerful self-help therapy that involves mind and emotions with acupuncture without the needles.

In short, EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture where certain meridian points are stimulated by tapping with our fingertips and, since emotional stress can contribute to pain, disease and physical ailments and EFT Tapping Therapy provides astonishing results.

However, Alice having come from a staunch Catholic background does not quite believe in EFT Tapping and she would rather depend upon the power of pray than EFT Tapping. It seems that according to the experts’ one need not necessarily belief in EFT Tapping in order for it to work.

Robert Smith, one of America’s leading experts on stress, spirituality, and healing reiterated that many people tend to think wrongly that EFT Tapping Therapy is linked to some sort of religious practice but he explained that EFT Tapping Method has no religious implication and as matter of fact some biblical teachings could possibly be linked to emotional freedom.

John is adamant that depression could be healed with “Emotional Freedom Technique” using the “Tapping Method” and stay away from addictive drugs. This is a much better way to stop emotional stress at its bud.